Dad’s don’t have to be the last to know.

This from an article I read about Dad’s protecting their children from Bullying.It came off of a website for Anti bullying. I thought it was a great article ,because alot of times Military Dads aren’t always there to be present. There are quite a few tips that can be used even if they are on deployment or Geo Batch.Dads are often the last to know when our child is the victim of bullying. 

Credit to the following web page :Huffington Post.com

Children often do not share with their parents that they are being bullied due 
to shame and embarrassment. Use these 10 tips to protect your kids from bullies 
and help resolve school conflicts.



1) Know the Warning Signs: Understand that bullying can occur in physical, 
non-verbal, or online (cyber bullying) forms. If another child teases your child 
consistently, this represents a form of verbal bullying. Watch closely, anything 
from a lack of desire to attend school to sudden falling grades are possible 
signs your child might be experiencing a bullying problem.

2) Talk to Your Child: Be intentional about how you spend time talking with your 
child. Spend regular time making it clear that your child can talk to you about 
anything, especially tough situations at school. If your child knows you are 
interested in the small, daily things; he or she will be more comfortable to 
tell you the bigger things.

3) Teach Your Values: How you talk with your child daily will shape how your 
son/daughter values him- or herself. It’s never too early to talk to your child 
about your values. Your child needs to know right from wrong in how they treat 
people. If you teach your child well, they will recognize bad behavior when they 
see it; whether it’s to them or others. Teach your child that the standard is 
treating all people with respect. 

4) Get the facts. Get as much information as you can from your child if they 
tell you – or you suspect – a bullying situation. Consider your child's 
behavior, conflict-management skills, and temperament. Remember to support your 
child even as you do additional research on the situation. Ask detailed 
questions about the incident(s): Who was involved? What exactly happened? Who 
else might have seen the situation? Dad, do not act before thinking at this 
point. Do not instruct your child to fight back.

5) Stay Calm: 
Upon hearing that your son or daughter may be encountering a 
bully, you will probably want to pounce on said bully. Remember, a bully is 
seeking to create fear and control. All experts agree that the most important 
thing to do is stay calm. A bully is seeking reaction. Do not give it. How you 
personally react to the news will shape your child’s reaction.

6) Teach Your Child to Stand: Confronting a bully may be your child’s only 
option, but they should not seek to harm someone physically or verbally. Teach 
your child to stand up for him or herself, and that it is okay to speak up when 
spoken to in a degrading way. Of course, there is a delicate balance between 
instigating a fight and being a wet blanket. The earlier your child learns this, 
the better.

7) Talk to the Teacher: It is vital that your child learn how to handle his or 
her own social situations. It’s simply and a part of maturing. But, teach your 
child that if the bullying turns to threats of violence or emotional harm, it’s 
time to tell the teacher.

Dad, do not try and straighten the behavior of another child on your own. 
Contact your child’s school and learn about the school policy and how to access 
available resources. Often teachers have the best grasp on the relationships 
between children in the classroom. Stay professional in your interactions with 
school staff, and be sure to emphasize you want to work with them to find a 
solution. Teachers, principals, and guidance counselors are available to help.

8) Involve the Parents/Guardian: Unless the bully is over 18, which would be 
dealt with on a completely different manner (and different blog post), the bully 
will typically have parents. In most cases, the bully’s parents/guardian will 
not know that their child is the class bully, so it is generally a good strategy 
to get them involved. Keep in mind they will probably be defensive at first, so 
be careful not to lose your cool and make matters worse. 

9) Involve their Friends: There is definitely strength in numbers. Whether at 
recess, lunch or between classes, have your child plan to walk with friends. 
Often, bullies will not single you out when you are surrounded by supportive 
friends. On the flip side, your child may think they are among friends, but if 
those “friends” are also chiming into the bully’s behavior, help your child 
understand that those aren’t the type of friends he/she may want to keep. This 
may be a good time to encourage your child seek out new classmates as friends.

10) Prevent the Cycle. Help your child understand the situation by talking with 
them about why the bully acts the way he does. Empathize with your child but 
also constructively involve him or her in solving the problem. From kindergarten 
to high school, it is valuable that your child seeks supportive friends. 
Teaching your child appropriate social skills that build self-esteem will make 
them less likely targets. It's impossible to protect your child from any and all 
situations, but by being active and intentional, you can help your child 
navigate some situations.

For instance, practice scenarios while on the playground, during sibling 
conflicts, or even with situations you read in books and see on television. Make 
it a point to discuss with your child about exactly what happened in a book or 
movie and what the best response is in these situations. Whether the character 
does the wrong or right thing, the opportunity to discuss the event and use it 
as a teachable moment is there – seize it.

Finally, it is important for you to explain to your child that sometimes all 
that is necessary is avoidance. Bullies may give up if they don’t get attention. 
Above all, be sure you take the issue seriously and listen to your child. 


This was I think the most inportant piece. I told my DAD, most importantly!!!!!
A child knowing that dad is supportive can give a child confidence. Sometimes, confidence makes all the difference.


If you are confident , bullies don't bother you!
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The historic end of USS Enterprise

 

The end of a historic ships deployment.

The end of a historic ships deployment.

John’s Homecoming

Do you know what it’s like without your brother for nearly 9 months? Picture your family without your most favorite family member. It’s like making a fire without a match. So, when we went to Virginia, my excitement rocketed past Jupiter to Pluto. My favorite brother was coming home. Picture your family without your most favorite family member. It’s like making a fire without a match. So, when we went to Virginia, my excitement rocketed past Jupiter to Pluto. My favorite brother was coming home. There was a lot to prepare for the homecoming. The first thing was going to the night before party. It is when you go to the base and there is a big ball, where military families go. They have a children’s corner. In there you can make homecoming signs. They had clowns that made balloons. I got a brown sea turtle. On my sign, I made a picture of the Enterprise, that’s my brother’s ship; it said “welcome Home John”.

They had the biggest and most amazing cake. It was a grand structure that was grey. It was an exact replica of John’s ship. They water, blue icing, and lights for the runway and planes. Songs from the D.J. permeated the room. People were dancing because their family members were coming home the very next day at the end of deployment.

Eh- Eh- Eh- .”Sigh” Beep to stop the noise. Do we have to get up? “Yes “said Mom .It’s John’s Homecoming. I shouted excitedly. John was finally coming home! Yawn, Isabelle rolled out of bed lazily. Wow that was fast dad pointed out.come on I said. Geez Nate some people still have to get dressed! As mom opened the car door heat pelted us“Ohh’’ mom said “6:02’’ Isabelle blurted where did you come from?  And correction its 3:02 in Cali I said. “What” she said even louder. “Be quiet people are sleeping” Dad exclaimed! TEN HOURS LATER. Good we are at the shipyard. The clock read 4:02.there’s Jon’s ship I blurted. Let’s get some food first “Come on it will be a while” mom said. While I smothered myself in a hotdog, Isabelle found the bouncy houses. A PA announced The Enterprise is pulling into port. “That’s All” Just then we saw Mitt Romney’s Campaign bus! I got to sign the bus, “They are coming off “someone said. I heard someone shout .I spotted John nearly right away. John – John, I shouted. I ran to him, nearly knocking over a Senior Chief! When John goes to the rest of the family, we took pictures.

As we walked back to our car, tears flooded Mom’s eyes. As we hopped in the car, Isabelle and I debated who got to sit next to John. Then we decided he should sit in the middle.so we could share him .During the drive home, I asked John about the medals I had found on the ground during the walk back to the car. It felt really good to have my brother back home and ask him questions in person and not in email. I will never forget the day my brother came home.Image